Answers to your frequently asked questions

  • Please RSVP by May 1, 2025.

  • Our dress code is cocktail attire—a step below formal but dressier than semi-formal.

    For women this could include a knee-length or midi dress, a stylish jumpsuit, or dressy separates.

    For men, a suit is a great choice.

    Bridesmaids will be wearing navy.

  • Both the ceremony and reception will be held indoors. However, The Confluence Hotel offers a beautiful opportunity to step outside onto the yard or stroll along the Mississippi River.

  • Our ceremony will be a full Mass expected to last about an hour. We recommend arriving a little early to ensure you're settled before the ceremony begins.

  • Because of venue restrictions, we kindly ask that guests not arrive early for cocktail hour. Please use the time between the ceremony and cocktail hour to travel to the reception venue, check into your room, freshen up, take a stroll along the river, or explore downtown Hastings.

  • Passed champagne, a host bar and hors d'oeuvres will be available at cocktail hour beginning at 4:30 p.m. Dinner will be served around 6:00 p.m., followed by dancing and festivities.

  • Plentiful parking is available at the church and there is a parking ramp directly across from The Confluence Hotel. Hotel guests will have a designated lot next to The Confluence. Parking is free at each location.

  • Given the high number of wedding venues in the area, we strongly recommend booking as soon as possible, as several hotels in the area are already fully booked for the weekend.

    We have a limited room block available on a first-come, first-served basis until May 14, 2025. Please visit the accommodations page for the booking link.

    Should the Confluence Hotel be fully booked, there are numerous other hotel options available close to the reception venue, also listed on the accommodations page.

  • While rideshares are widely accessible in Saint Paul and Minneapolis, the reception venue is located on the metro area's outskirts, making transportation more challenging and costly. We recommend having a vehicle available for transportation throughout the weekend and arranging a safe ride home if you are not staying at the hotel at the end of the night. To learn how to reserve a room at The Confluence Hotel, visit the accommodations page.

  • Please see the map embedded on the travel or wedding day page for directions.

  • Absolutely! Check out our travel page for our dining recommendations.

  • Check-in is at 3:00 p.m. and check-out is at 11:00 a.m.

    Can I request an early check-in?

    Since the hotel is nearly fully booked, early check-ins will likely not be available. Please plan accordingly.