Answers to your frequently asked questions

  • Our dress code is cocktail attire—a step below formal but dressier than semi-formal.

    Think elevated and polished, but not black tie. Dresses, jumpsuits or dressy separates for women; suits or dress pants with a blazer for men. Ties are welcome but optional. Feel free to dress up with fun accessories. Kindly no jeans or casual wear please.

    Bridesmaids will be wearing navy.

  • Both the ceremony and reception will be held indoors. However, The Confluence Hotel offers a beautiful opportunity to step outside onto the yard or stroll along the Mississippi River.

  • Our ceremony will be a full Mass expected to last about an hour. We recommend arriving 10-15 minutes early to ensure you're settled before the ceremony begins.

  • Because of venue restrictions, we kindly ask that guests not arrive early for cocktail hour. Please use the time between the ceremony and cocktail hour to travel to the reception venue, check into your room, freshen up, take a stroll along the river, or explore downtown Hastings.

  • Plentiful parking is available at the church and there is a parking ramp directly across from The Confluence Hotel. Hotel guests will have a designated lot next to The Confluence. Parking is free at each location.

  • While rideshares are widely accessible in Saint Paul and Minneapolis, the reception venue is located on the metro area's outskirts, making transportation more challenging and costly. We recommend having a vehicle available for transportation throughout the weekend and arranging a safe ride home if you are not staying at the hotel at the end of the night. To learn how to reserve a room at The Confluence Hotel, visit the accommodations page.

  • Please see the map embedded on the travel or wedding day page for directions.

  • Absolutely! Check out our travel page for our dining recommendations.

  • Check-in is at 3:00 p.m. and check-out is at 11:00 a.m.

    Can I request an early check-in?

    Since the hotel is nearly fully booked, early check-ins will likely not be available. Please plan accordingly.

  • Please reach out directly to the couple or their parents if you are no longer able to attend.